Better Single...Than Sorry!

To all of the single ladies out there… don’t be sad if you don’t have a Valentine this year! It is better to have no one, than the wrong one. I’ve had Valentine’s twice in my life…and both were the worst Valentine’s Day’s I’ve ever had! Believe me…you would much rather be single, having fun going out to dinner and watching movies with friends, than being disappointed with a frog who doesn’t treat you well! Go treat yourself. Buy yourself a box of chocolates, some flowers to brighten up your bedroom, or a new dress. You don’t need a guy to enjoy those things!

Can we rewind to last year? Last year, on Valentine’s weekend, I met my long distance boyfriend of one month, for the second time. We both stayed at a hotel and I got a separate room. He didn’t seem to understand or respect the fact that I didn’t want to share a hotel room with him. Because of this, his mood changed and he became very rude. This should have been the first red flag, but I was blinded by his amazingly good looks and charming smile.

We went to a movie and he drove me back to the hotel so fast that I seriously thought he was going to crash his truck. He dropped me off at the hotel entrance… ‘Aww, how sweet’ I thought. I waited for him in the lobby… only to wait…and wait… and wait… I went back outside to see if he slipped and hit his head on the ice or something…cause I mean, where could he be?

No sign of him anywhere.

So I called his cell phone. He picks up. “Hey, where are you?” I ask….

Are you ready for this?

He was in his pajamas, watching TV in his room. Ok, after my long drive there I convinced myself somehow that I shouldn’t leave quite yet…plus I paid for the hotel room. I’d give him one more chance.
The next day…Valentine’s Day… he decided to take me to the mall. It was unlike any mall I had ever seen before, out in the middle of nowhere. I was homesick. He told me what stores to go into, while he went into “his” stores. At one point he said he would meet me somewhere, and lied. I had no clue where he was, he wasn’t answering his phone, and I was in the middle of nowhere.
At the end of this lovely day, he came out with his hands full of shopping bags and I went home empty handed (in every sense of the word). After this, we sat in his truck, and I was ready to go home and never come back. That’s when he asked me if I wanted to go to a furniture store. A furniture store? How romantic. He wanted a new couch.

Wow.

I ended up telling him I’d better go home, and I cried the entire way home. By far… the worst Valentine’s ever.
All of this to say…Ladies… it is so, so, so much better to be single, than sorry! I know it can be hard sometimes, when you feel all alone and that no one loves you because you don’t have someone special on this day - but it’s SO NOT TRUE! It’s more miserable and lonely to be with the wrong person.

Wait for the guy that will treat you right. If that means being alone for a while…you don’t have to be lonely! Alone doesn’t equal lonely… we only create that when we have a pity party for ourselves. You can live a fabulous, full, amazingly blessed life pursuing your God given dreams, goals and gifts while still trusting him for the “one”, even when your eyes don’t see a prince in sight.
Say goodbye to the frogs! Lets make a pact that we will stand up to the “bad boys”, the guys that use, misuse and abuse girls and say “No more”. Let’s not continue to let them get away with the behaviors they have been getting used to getting away with for so long… We teach people how to treat us.

Don’t settle for anyone who treats you less than God’s best.
God bless you today! I pray blessings come your way, new doors of opportunity open and that God will fill your heart so full of love that you won’t have to look to anyone else to fill the empty places. Girls, you deserve to be treated with love! Jesus didn’t give His life for you, for you to be mistreated or abused. He came so that you could have life more abundantly, overflowing, and live it to the fullest!